BW 022: When Grief Gets Stuck and Time Doesn’t Heal all Wounds: Why We are Not Prepared to Handle Loss and Grief

Today we're gonna talk about why it feels like we get stuck in grief. Why time doesn't magically heal all wounds. Why we're ultimately not prepared to handle grief and loss and what you can actually do about it.

 

We talk about:

~ Power of words.

~ Misconceptions that we have learned about grief and how to process loss.

~ How others are ill prepared to help us navigate grief

~ Who is ultimately responsible

 

Quotes:

 ~ "..no one else has the ability to influence how you feel, how you feel, and how you respond to something is controlled by you."

~ "Grief is a human response that is normal and natural. There's nothing wrong or defective with you. Loss can cause us to experience all sorts of emotions, sadness, anger, bitterness, denial, frustration, so many different emotions that grief can bring upon us, that is totally normal."

~ "We’re taught how to acquire things; not how to lose them."

 

Resources Mentioned:

~ How to Talk to a Widow (bravewidow.com) - BW episode 011

~ Four Reasons Why Grief is Hard (bravewidow.com) BW episode 016

~ The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss by Mary-Frances O'Connor

~ The Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. James and Russell Friedman

 

Resources by John W. James and Russell Friedman can be found at:

https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/

https://www.facebook.com/griefrecoverymethod/

Grief Recovery (@GriefRecovery) · Twitter

https://twitter.com/GriefRecovery

https://www.instagram.com/griefrecoverymethod/

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Hey guys, I’m Emily Jones

I was widowed at age 37, one month shy of our 20 year wedding anniversary.  Nathan and I have four beautiful children together.  My world was turned completely upside down when I lost him.  With faith, community, and wisdom from others, I’ve been able to find hope, joy, and dream again for the future.  I want to help others do the same, too!

 

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